Demi Lovato and her fiery pink hair heat up Glamour‘s April 2021 cover, for which she opened up about the ways she’s shed heteronormativity and embraced her queerness.
Take her hair, for instance. When she got a pixie cut in November and dyed it hot pink in January, Lovato was slowly breaking out of the pristine heteronormative pop star mold she had been in for a decade. Ultimately, she’s trying to shave her head, and she’s realizing that being in a heteronormative relationship isn’t necessarily the right fit for her. She and ex-fiancé Max Ehrich broke off their engagement after two months (they were dating for six months prior), and if after the storm comes the rainbow, then Lovato found a “huge sign” about her sexuality afterward.
“When I started getting older, I started realizing how queer I really am,” Lovato tells Glamour. “This past year I was engaged to a man, and when it didn’t work, I was like, This is a huge sign. I thought I was going to spend my life with someone. Now that I wasn’t going to, I felt this sense of relief that I could live my truth.”
She includes that being “too queer” to be with a cisgender man is part of her truth, and casual dating is the best avenue for her to explore her sexual identity.
“I hooked up with a girl and was like, ‘I like this a lot more.’ It felt better. It felt right,” she continued. “Some of the guys I was hanging out with — when it would come time to be sexual or intimate, I would have this kind of visceral reaction. Like, ‘I just don’t want to put my mouth there.’ It wasn’t even based on the person it was with. I just found myself really appreciating the friendships of those people more than the romance, and I didn’t want the romance from anybody of the opposite sex.”
Read Lovato’s entire Glamour cover story here.